Does one thought lead into a whole stream of negativity until it becomes so big that it seems to become the truth?
While sticking your fingers in your ears may help you, here’s more ideas to think about that might be more useful……..
As a small negative thought can escalate and drain your of energy and keep you from being in the present moment, try to not give in to negative thoughts. The more attention you give them, the stronger they become. Imagine them as a small ball rolling along the ground. The more you pay attention to them, the bigger and faster that ball becomes.
If you imagine that same ball but as a positive thought, it could blossom into a wonderful feeling filled with potential.
Here’s a list of some of the things that can be helpful. Maybe try one.
1. Meditate or do yoga
Meditation or doing yoga focusing your attention of breathing and moving so your mind doesn’t have to space to focus on negative themes. It helps you stay in the present moment instead of jumping into the future and what might happen, dwelling on past events that haven’t turned out how you wanted them, etc.
It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. You can trick your brain into thinking you are happy because you are smiling …. so it starts thinking you are.
3. Surround yourself with positive people
Calling a friend who can give you constructive and loving feedback on your thoughts. When you’re stuck in a negative spiral, talk to people who can put things into perspective and won’t feed your negative thinking.
4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive
For example, instead of thinking, “We are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,” think, “We will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.”
5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility
The way you think becomes the way you act. If you are thinking you are stuck then you will become stuck thinking like that. Try to think of it as ‘I was stuck’. Even if our living situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. You will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.
6. Help someone
Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person. If you can make something for a friend, donate something to charity or visit an elderly neighbour, it helps takes your mind off your worries and makes you feel better for helping someone else.
7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward
It’s easy to dwell on your mistakes. The voice saying ‘I felt terrible that I acted this way’ or ‘I wasted that opportunity’. The only thing you can do now is learn from your mistakes and move forward.
Try belting out along with the radio. You don’t have to remember all the lyrics but the deep breathing involved, the chance to show our feelings and be loud can be an amazing stress relief.
9. List five things that you are grateful for right now
Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. Focusing on the good things you have helps balance things out.
10. Remember this quote
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.